Would you believe that there are actually married women out there who have had or are having affairs? You’d think by the article in Newsweek and the Oprah show today, that no one ever thought that it was possible for a wife to go out and have an affair.
In The New Infidelity Newsweek writers, obviously watching too much Desperate Housewives and deciding to capitalize on it, have decided that the love lives of lonely and underappreciated women is actually news. Oprah thinks it so much so that she had a show on it today, which I admit I watched. I hardly ever watch Oprah—just when she’s got someone famous I like on—but what the hell? I thought the show was about swingers, which for some reason I just find fascinating. I mean, I don’t share well others, so I’m just amazed at couples who share something so personal with people who are basically strangers! One of the couples said it made their sex lives better—like vacation sex all the time. Oprah and I both raised our eyebrows. I know we were thinking the same thing, “Really? Vacation sex all the time? Cool.”
But I digress. The first part of the show was about this article in Newsweek that “blew the lid off this story,” saying an estimated 15 percent of women cheat on their husbands. And they’ve decided they know why it’s happening, which you can see in the subtitle to the article: “Why they stray: With the work place and the Internet, overscheduled lives and inattentive husbands—it's no wonder more American women are looking for comfort in the arms of another man.” Notice what’s mentioned first? That’s right boys and girls, women working is one of the causes for wifely infidelity. It’s not the bored housewife, it’s those women in the workplace! See how terrible it is when women leave the home to go work!?!
But you know, they just might be on to something. Here’s what one therapist said:
There's a more subtle point embedded in here as well: women and men bring their best selves to work, leaving their bad behavior and marital resentments at home with their dirty sweatpants. At work, "we dress nicely. We think before we speak. We're poised," says Elana Katz, a therapist in private practice and a divorce mediator at the Ackerman Institute for the Family in New York City.
That’s true. At work I felt like a problem-solver, respected for my intelligence and skills. But many, many times at home I felt like I couldn’t do anything right, criticized because the house wasn’t clean enough and I didn’t have anything planned for dinner. Now, my husband and I have pretty much worked through that, and I never considered having an affair, but I’ve seen it happen to friends.
Anyway, after talking about women having affairs and couples swinging to keep their marriage healthy, Oprah stated that the definition of marriage is obviously changing. Ya think so? If the majority of red states and the droves of people who came out to vote against gay marriages is any indication, I’d say, if anything, there is a push for conservatively traditional marriage.
And I’ll tell ya what I tell my husband. Everything that I do that drives him crazy, other women do the same thing, so he might as well stay with me. And considering how many of our male friends have divorced their wives, just to remarry a woman who could be their first wife’s sister, he might as well stay with me. Besides, supposedly, as I enter into my 40s, I’m in for a boost of sexual prowess, and he doesn’t want to miss that!
Friday, June 30, 2006
Thursday, June 29, 2006
Hangovers and Tears
We were out until last call at our favorite pub, the Dell, last night. We took our friends there, who met up with some of their friends, all to drink a dram of single malt to their friend who committed suicide last Friday.
It was surreal to sit a table and listen to stories of someone you’ve never met but still felt like you knew because he had become real through all the stories. Our friends talked about him often, and we were actually supposed to meet him and his wife a year ago, kind of a melding of the separate friendships into one, but it didn’t happen. The mutual friends moved away, and we got settled into our own life here. Is it selfish of me to say I’m glad that meeting never happened? How much harder would this be if I had met him, his wife, and his 2 ½ year old son?
It’s already harder than I thought. When friends need a place to stay, you automatically offer it to them. I concerned myself with getting fresh sheets on the bed, dusting and moping, cleaning out the bathtub, baking something with chocolate in it, and having plenty of coffee beans for the morning and beer for the rest of the day. I forgot the emotional toll it can have, however. I’ve had someone close to me commit suicide, and the memories are flooding back a little faster than I can handle. I didn’t realize how letting my friend talk about how she’s feeling would force me to relive what I had been through, resulting in me talking about my experience to show her that I understand. It’s not the first time we’ve cried together, and I’m sure it won’t be the last.
They’ll be gone all day today at the funeral and a “beer call.” I imagine they’ll be out all night, too. She wants to include me, so she’s invited me along, but I’m going to keep my distance and let them mourn with the people who shared his friendship. And my hubby is going to go into work (I know, that sounds funny, but he’s coming off of a shift, so technically he’s off for a couple of days), so I have the house to myself today. I think I may just sit and enjoy the quiet for awhile. Maybe say a little prayer for lost friends.
It was surreal to sit a table and listen to stories of someone you’ve never met but still felt like you knew because he had become real through all the stories. Our friends talked about him often, and we were actually supposed to meet him and his wife a year ago, kind of a melding of the separate friendships into one, but it didn’t happen. The mutual friends moved away, and we got settled into our own life here. Is it selfish of me to say I’m glad that meeting never happened? How much harder would this be if I had met him, his wife, and his 2 ½ year old son?
It’s already harder than I thought. When friends need a place to stay, you automatically offer it to them. I concerned myself with getting fresh sheets on the bed, dusting and moping, cleaning out the bathtub, baking something with chocolate in it, and having plenty of coffee beans for the morning and beer for the rest of the day. I forgot the emotional toll it can have, however. I’ve had someone close to me commit suicide, and the memories are flooding back a little faster than I can handle. I didn’t realize how letting my friend talk about how she’s feeling would force me to relive what I had been through, resulting in me talking about my experience to show her that I understand. It’s not the first time we’ve cried together, and I’m sure it won’t be the last.
They’ll be gone all day today at the funeral and a “beer call.” I imagine they’ll be out all night, too. She wants to include me, so she’s invited me along, but I’m going to keep my distance and let them mourn with the people who shared his friendship. And my hubby is going to go into work (I know, that sounds funny, but he’s coming off of a shift, so technically he’s off for a couple of days), so I have the house to myself today. I think I may just sit and enjoy the quiet for awhile. Maybe say a little prayer for lost friends.
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
Potterific Ponderings
Jay posted today about who he thinks will live and who will die in the last Harry Potter novel. I haven’t really thought about it too much, but reading his post made me want to wax potteric for a while.
Through the first few books, I spent way too much of my adult life trying to figure out where the HP books will go. Who will die, who will get together, who will be the next Dark Arts teacher . . . But I haven’t really thought about that too much in the last two books. Oh, I figured Harry and Ginny would get together, that seemed pretty obvious at the end of book 5, but really, I haven’t done much more thinking on it. I’ve decided I just want to enjoy them. Let them suck me into that world, then unfold.
This is a new thing for me, by the way. I’ve always been one of those readers who figures out where a book is going before I get halfway through it. It’s the curse of the English major! You know plot structure so well that not much surprises you. But I’ve learned how to turn that off, thank goodness. I don’t even watch the extras on DVDs I rent any more because I don’t want to take away from the magic. Well, ok, I watched some of the extras for Underworld Evolution, but that’s because it’s a vampire movie, and well, I like vampire movies, so I wanted to know everything about it.
Anyway, I digress. I don’t want Harry to die. As I commented on Jay’s blog, I think that Neville might be the one who saves Harry and defeats Voldemort (there will be no mamsy-pansy he-who-shall-not-be-named on this blog!). But for it to truly be Harry’s story, Harry will have to help Neville defeat the old baddie. Then, Neville will die.
And we will be sad.
Rowling said two characters will die, and I’m assuming she means besides Voldemort. She also said she expects it to really upset people, so at least one of them is going to be someone we all really like. Ron (please no!), Hermione (no, someone has to write the history and legacy of Harry Potter), Lupin, Hagrid, and yes, even Draco. I don’t think Draco is going to turn colors and be noble, but I think he is a victim of Voldemort.
Of course, my thoughts are minimal and sparse compared to the website forums out there. Good Lord these people know a lot about these books! Have you been to the Harry Potter Lexicon? If Rowling ever needs to refresh her memory about anything in her books, all she has to do is go to that site. It makes me feel like I’m not a fan at all. Which gives me an idea for another post for another day. Hmmmmmm.
Anyway, I can wait for the 7th book. Yes, you read that right--I can wait. I need to re-read a couple of them to remind myself about some of the characters and events. But, I really hope that Lucius escapes from Azkaban because I want to see Jason Isaacs in the last movie since he won’t be in the 6th.
Through the first few books, I spent way too much of my adult life trying to figure out where the HP books will go. Who will die, who will get together, who will be the next Dark Arts teacher . . . But I haven’t really thought about that too much in the last two books. Oh, I figured Harry and Ginny would get together, that seemed pretty obvious at the end of book 5, but really, I haven’t done much more thinking on it. I’ve decided I just want to enjoy them. Let them suck me into that world, then unfold.
This is a new thing for me, by the way. I’ve always been one of those readers who figures out where a book is going before I get halfway through it. It’s the curse of the English major! You know plot structure so well that not much surprises you. But I’ve learned how to turn that off, thank goodness. I don’t even watch the extras on DVDs I rent any more because I don’t want to take away from the magic. Well, ok, I watched some of the extras for Underworld Evolution, but that’s because it’s a vampire movie, and well, I like vampire movies, so I wanted to know everything about it.
Anyway, I digress. I don’t want Harry to die. As I commented on Jay’s blog, I think that Neville might be the one who saves Harry and defeats Voldemort (there will be no mamsy-pansy he-who-shall-not-be-named on this blog!). But for it to truly be Harry’s story, Harry will have to help Neville defeat the old baddie. Then, Neville will die.
And we will be sad.
Rowling said two characters will die, and I’m assuming she means besides Voldemort. She also said she expects it to really upset people, so at least one of them is going to be someone we all really like. Ron (please no!), Hermione (no, someone has to write the history and legacy of Harry Potter), Lupin, Hagrid, and yes, even Draco. I don’t think Draco is going to turn colors and be noble, but I think he is a victim of Voldemort.
Of course, my thoughts are minimal and sparse compared to the website forums out there. Good Lord these people know a lot about these books! Have you been to the Harry Potter Lexicon? If Rowling ever needs to refresh her memory about anything in her books, all she has to do is go to that site. It makes me feel like I’m not a fan at all. Which gives me an idea for another post for another day. Hmmmmmm.
Anyway, I can wait for the 7th book. Yes, you read that right--I can wait. I need to re-read a couple of them to remind myself about some of the characters and events. But, I really hope that Lucius escapes from Azkaban because I want to see Jason Isaacs in the last movie since he won’t be in the 6th.
Tuesday, June 27, 2006
Popcorn Salvation
Aaaahhh, popcorn. Is there anything more helpful or comforting than a big bowl of hot popcorn? Except maybe a big spoon of peanut butter, but I digress.
Popcorn just fits any situation.
Need a little snack because it’s in-between lunch and dinner—popcorn.
Netflix just delivered that movie I’ve been waiting to see—popcorn.
Hubby working the night shift and I don’t feel like cooking dinner—popcorn.
Stressed and so emotional that I need to eat something for comfort— extra-buttered popcorn and a Coke.
Ate a late, late breakfast and it’s too close to dinner to have lunch—popcorn.
Need something to snack on while I struggle to write something on my blog, thereby avoiding the cleaning I should be doing and the homework I should be completing for my online class—popcorn.
Need something to throw at my hubby who is looking at me sideways because I should be helping him clean, then get cleaned up so I can go shopping for food for his dinner, and then finish my online class assignment—popcorn.
Well, that’s enough stalling. Those tables need dusting and that tub needs cleaning if I’m going to have house guests.
Popcorn just fits any situation.
Need a little snack because it’s in-between lunch and dinner—popcorn.
Netflix just delivered that movie I’ve been waiting to see—popcorn.
Hubby working the night shift and I don’t feel like cooking dinner—popcorn.
Stressed and so emotional that I need to eat something for comfort— extra-buttered popcorn and a Coke.
Ate a late, late breakfast and it’s too close to dinner to have lunch—popcorn.
Need something to snack on while I struggle to write something on my blog, thereby avoiding the cleaning I should be doing and the homework I should be completing for my online class—popcorn.
Need something to throw at my hubby who is looking at me sideways because I should be helping him clean, then get cleaned up so I can go shopping for food for his dinner, and then finish my online class assignment—popcorn.
Well, that’s enough stalling. Those tables need dusting and that tub needs cleaning if I’m going to have house guests.
Monday, June 26, 2006
It's Going To Be a Long Week, I'm Afraid
We have good friends coming in this week for a funeral. She was planning to come visit me to check on a house they own here, and we were planning to hit our favorites restaurants and bars and bookstores. Plans have changed a little, but we’ll still hit the Dell (our favorite pub) to have a drink for their friend. And I imagine she and I will stay up all night talking and gabbing, which our husbands just shake their head at. How do we find stuff to talk about for so long? Poor guys. It’s a mystery, I know.
Their friend committed suicide. I have personal experience with this, so I was quick to offer them a place to stay and a place to vent all the anger and guilt that come with this experience. It’s so hard to know what to say, so I usually don’t say anything except, “I’m sorry for your loss.” And I warned her that someone is going to say something really inappropriate and that will really piss her off. It’s inevitable at a funeral.
And that reminded me about a guy I met at the party Friday night who had some real words of wisdom in a drunken lecture. We had gotten on the subject of funerals (I don’t remember how), and he went off about the horrible things that people will say. He told all of us (and Mom, you might want to cover your ears at this point) that if you don’t know what to say, don’t say fuckin’ anything. The rest of lecture went, “Just don’t say anything! Don’t try to fuckin’ elaborate or say something else, just don’t say anything besides, ‘I’m sorry.’ It’s like the fuckin’ birthday cards. Everyone tries to write something so meaningful, but ya know what I write on birthday cards? ‘Happy Fuckin’ Birthday’ that’s what. What else do you need?”
So, my friends and family should be prepared for a new slant on birthday cards from me!
Their friend committed suicide. I have personal experience with this, so I was quick to offer them a place to stay and a place to vent all the anger and guilt that come with this experience. It’s so hard to know what to say, so I usually don’t say anything except, “I’m sorry for your loss.” And I warned her that someone is going to say something really inappropriate and that will really piss her off. It’s inevitable at a funeral.
And that reminded me about a guy I met at the party Friday night who had some real words of wisdom in a drunken lecture. We had gotten on the subject of funerals (I don’t remember how), and he went off about the horrible things that people will say. He told all of us (and Mom, you might want to cover your ears at this point) that if you don’t know what to say, don’t say fuckin’ anything. The rest of lecture went, “Just don’t say anything! Don’t try to fuckin’ elaborate or say something else, just don’t say anything besides, ‘I’m sorry.’ It’s like the fuckin’ birthday cards. Everyone tries to write something so meaningful, but ya know what I write on birthday cards? ‘Happy Fuckin’ Birthday’ that’s what. What else do you need?”
So, my friends and family should be prepared for a new slant on birthday cards from me!
Oh Please.
Well, let's see. Bush is furious at the NY Times for an article disclosing a program to secretly monitor the financial tracking of potential terrorists. I'm sorry, is this the same administration that leaked the name of a CIA operative because her husband was speaking out against the war in Iraq? Hmmmm. I think it is!
Bush is claiming that the NY Times was irresponsible because we are at war, people! Wow. Such insight from our leader is just, just riveting. Never mind that they use the media to their advantage to plant the stories they want and to their benefit. And never mind that if he thinks that story surprises anyone, he really is clueless. And never mind that the administration had discussed this article with the Times before it was printed. And never mind that Bush spends more time defending the program than talking about the real danger of an article that could give terrorists a head's up to change their tactics.
Sheesh!
Bush is claiming that the NY Times was irresponsible because we are at war, people! Wow. Such insight from our leader is just, just riveting. Never mind that they use the media to their advantage to plant the stories they want and to their benefit. And never mind that if he thinks that story surprises anyone, he really is clueless. And never mind that the administration had discussed this article with the Times before it was printed. And never mind that Bush spends more time defending the program than talking about the real danger of an article that could give terrorists a head's up to change their tactics.
Sheesh!
Sunday, June 25, 2006
Yes! I love Chicago!
| American Cities That Best Fit You:: |
| 65% Chicago |
| 65% Philadelphia |
| 60% New York City |
| 55% San Francisco |
| 50% Denver |
I could live in Chicago.
Wow! It's Just Wow!
Elvis Costello and Diana Krall are going to have a baby! He's 51 and she's 41, and they're going to have a baby. First of all, I'm a HUGE Krall fan, and I kind of like him, too. And I don't know, I'm 40. And I just kind of feel like my chance to have kids is past, and here's this couple having a baby! Of course, they have whole lot more money than I have, and I don't know what they had to go through to get pregenant, but still, it's just kind of cool that there's going to be a little musical baby genius. OK, and I have to say it, that union is just on this side of odd any way, so a baby?!?
Dublin or Edinburgh, Same Diff
OK, so every now and then these tests actually work. Yes, I should be in Dublin!
You Belong in Dublin |
 Friendly and down to earth, you want to enjoy Europe without snobbery or pretensions. You're the perfect person to go wild on a pub crawl... or enjoy a quiet bike ride through the old part of town. |
Tasting "Lite Whites"
No, I didn’t know what he meant by “Lite Wines” either, but our friend “Chum” was having a wine-tasting party, and who am I to turn down free wine? Oh, and in his explanation, Lite Wines are Sauvignon Blanc, Pinot Gregio, no Chardonnay or anything too sweet.
Chum is a wine connoisseur with excellent taste (guess that’s what makes him a connoisseur). He even had tasting worksheets for everyone to help describe what we were tasting. Woodsy? Spicy? Fruity? Tropical fruit? Tree fruit? Hubby is really good at this; he can talk for hours about the distinct flavors in wine, beer and scotch. Me? White wine is either sweet or it’s not, that’s about as descriptive as I get. And, I’d prefer red wine, any way.
But the big deal about this party was that I didn’t want to go. I’d had a bad week, I was tired, and I was feeling really anti-social. Also, I had to go alone because hubby was at work, but he wanted to come when he got off work, so he badgered me into going. Well, maybe not “badger” that seems a bit harsh, so let’s say he was encouraging me to go. And he was right of course, damn it. It was good for me to go and get out of the house and be around people. And I had a great time, so I’m glad I went.
However, I almost turned around and went home with my contribution of Pine Ridge Chenin Blanc. Chum lives in a loft downtown, and I almost didn’t find a parking spot because everyone was downtown for the yearly art show and College World Series celebrations. On my second time around, I found a spot about a block away, so I gave in.
So, I’m walking in my new, cute strapy sandals, hoping that I don’t fall flat on my face, when I hear, “Helllloooooo!” It’s my pastor and her husband, heading back to their car from the art show. I put the bottle behind my back and said, “I’m not carrying a bottle of wine,” and we laughed. She’s actually our Associate Pastor and about 27 years old, so she’s cool. Plus, I’m Methodist, and Methodist can drink. So, we chatted, then I headed to the apartment building, hoping I could remember how to get through security.
I was glad I went early, and I even recognized some people from Chum’s last party and from Hubby’s work. And I have to share this, too, because later in the evening I got a compliment! We, as usual, were two of the last people there, and Chum and I were talking about photography and writing and how I could help him and other stuff. And I don’t know what I said but Chum said, “ You’re what . . . I want . . . (pointed at hubby) When you’re done with him, let me know.” He was drunk and won’t remember, but it’s still a compliment, so I’ll take it. However, he also told me that he didn’t think I could be mean enough about his writing to help him because he thinks I’m too nice. Well, that just shows he doesn’t really know me at all!
So, that was my Friday night. Not bad. Better than Saturday night, which was a “Craft Night” at a friend’s house and all the women brought their babies and all the babies cried incessantly. Can we say “migraine” boy and girls? Ugh. But on the bright side, I got a lot of knitting done that night, so some of my Christmas presents are well on their way to being finished.
Chum is a wine connoisseur with excellent taste (guess that’s what makes him a connoisseur). He even had tasting worksheets for everyone to help describe what we were tasting. Woodsy? Spicy? Fruity? Tropical fruit? Tree fruit? Hubby is really good at this; he can talk for hours about the distinct flavors in wine, beer and scotch. Me? White wine is either sweet or it’s not, that’s about as descriptive as I get. And, I’d prefer red wine, any way.
But the big deal about this party was that I didn’t want to go. I’d had a bad week, I was tired, and I was feeling really anti-social. Also, I had to go alone because hubby was at work, but he wanted to come when he got off work, so he badgered me into going. Well, maybe not “badger” that seems a bit harsh, so let’s say he was encouraging me to go. And he was right of course, damn it. It was good for me to go and get out of the house and be around people. And I had a great time, so I’m glad I went.
However, I almost turned around and went home with my contribution of Pine Ridge Chenin Blanc. Chum lives in a loft downtown, and I almost didn’t find a parking spot because everyone was downtown for the yearly art show and College World Series celebrations. On my second time around, I found a spot about a block away, so I gave in.
So, I’m walking in my new, cute strapy sandals, hoping that I don’t fall flat on my face, when I hear, “Helllloooooo!” It’s my pastor and her husband, heading back to their car from the art show. I put the bottle behind my back and said, “I’m not carrying a bottle of wine,” and we laughed. She’s actually our Associate Pastor and about 27 years old, so she’s cool. Plus, I’m Methodist, and Methodist can drink. So, we chatted, then I headed to the apartment building, hoping I could remember how to get through security.
I was glad I went early, and I even recognized some people from Chum’s last party and from Hubby’s work. And I have to share this, too, because later in the evening I got a compliment! We, as usual, were two of the last people there, and Chum and I were talking about photography and writing and how I could help him and other stuff. And I don’t know what I said but Chum said, “ You’re what . . . I want . . . (pointed at hubby) When you’re done with him, let me know.” He was drunk and won’t remember, but it’s still a compliment, so I’ll take it. However, he also told me that he didn’t think I could be mean enough about his writing to help him because he thinks I’m too nice. Well, that just shows he doesn’t really know me at all!
So, that was my Friday night. Not bad. Better than Saturday night, which was a “Craft Night” at a friend’s house and all the women brought their babies and all the babies cried incessantly. Can we say “migraine” boy and girls? Ugh. But on the bright side, I got a lot of knitting done that night, so some of my Christmas presents are well on their way to being finished.
Thursday, June 22, 2006
Coming Back Soon
OK, I'm a little more rested. Well, actually, right now, I feel like I could sleep for a couple of days, but I feel like posting again. Might be a little slow--my MS has slowed me down a little recently--but I'll post again soon.
So, check back soon.
Thanks.
So, check back soon.
Thanks.
Thursday, May 25, 2006
Later
I'm taking a break from blogging. I like reading other people's blogs but not writing on my own, so I'm gonna stop for awhile.
Thanks for stopping by.
Thanks for stopping by.
Tuesday, May 23, 2006
A New Day
I'm in the house by myself for the first time since Daily passed away. And I'm doing OK because as some told me, the good memories are taking the place of the sadness.
I'm keeping busy by surfing the net. Yes, there are many other things I could be doing, but what the hell. Jay read his horoscope and put it on his blog. Jay checked his horoscope? That alone is newsworthy. I haven't looked at mine in a while, so I went to yahoo first. One of the nice things about horescopes is that if you don't like one, go find another source, it might be better. So, here's what Yahoo said about me today:
Something fresh and lovely wants to enter your personal life, but first you need to make room for it. Sweep away some old patterns. Get rid of any mental junk. It's time to dump the old. Welcome the new.
Now, this is significant because I got an email from the lady we got Daily from and she said she'll have puppies in the fall and she'll give us one. Of course, I'm ready for another dog right now--actually, I want 2 more dogs. But Hubby is pretty heartbroken and said he doesn't want another pet, ever ever ever. Maybe that horoscope was meant for him. Maybe they mixed up Taurus and Leo today.
So, just for fun, what does my horoscope in our local paper say?
(A 3-star day!) Move slowly this morning. You don't need or want a flub-up. Instinctiveness plays a role with a partner. This afternoon, emphasize what you want. Expect to have excellent results--if not now, ultimately. Tonight: As you like.
Hmmmmmm. I could make a case that it pertains to getting another dog. That's the other nice thing about horoscopes, you can make them fit the way you want them to.
And just for the helluvit, here's what Horoscope.com says:
With a strong aspect between your ruling planet and the moon you are likely to be somewhat preoccupied and a little air-headed today. The lack of earth energy at the moment won’t help, nor will the likely romantic distractions. However, having some amethyst or clear quartz will help you focus.
Huh? So, I'm a ditz today and even Hubby making the moves on me won't help take my mind off things. Well, we'll see about that! I don't have any amethyst, but I saw a beautiful amethyst ring at the mall. Do you think shopping will increase my earth energy?
So many things to think about. But first, coffee. I've been up for hours and haven't had coffee. I think that will help my earth energy, too.
I'm keeping busy by surfing the net. Yes, there are many other things I could be doing, but what the hell. Jay read his horoscope and put it on his blog. Jay checked his horoscope? That alone is newsworthy. I haven't looked at mine in a while, so I went to yahoo first. One of the nice things about horescopes is that if you don't like one, go find another source, it might be better. So, here's what Yahoo said about me today:
Something fresh and lovely wants to enter your personal life, but first you need to make room for it. Sweep away some old patterns. Get rid of any mental junk. It's time to dump the old. Welcome the new.
Now, this is significant because I got an email from the lady we got Daily from and she said she'll have puppies in the fall and she'll give us one. Of course, I'm ready for another dog right now--actually, I want 2 more dogs. But Hubby is pretty heartbroken and said he doesn't want another pet, ever ever ever. Maybe that horoscope was meant for him. Maybe they mixed up Taurus and Leo today.
So, just for fun, what does my horoscope in our local paper say?
(A 3-star day!) Move slowly this morning. You don't need or want a flub-up. Instinctiveness plays a role with a partner. This afternoon, emphasize what you want. Expect to have excellent results--if not now, ultimately. Tonight: As you like.
Hmmmmmm. I could make a case that it pertains to getting another dog. That's the other nice thing about horoscopes, you can make them fit the way you want them to.
And just for the helluvit, here's what Horoscope.com says:
With a strong aspect between your ruling planet and the moon you are likely to be somewhat preoccupied and a little air-headed today. The lack of earth energy at the moment won’t help, nor will the likely romantic distractions. However, having some amethyst or clear quartz will help you focus.
Huh? So, I'm a ditz today and even Hubby making the moves on me won't help take my mind off things. Well, we'll see about that! I don't have any amethyst, but I saw a beautiful amethyst ring at the mall. Do you think shopping will increase my earth energy?
So many things to think about. But first, coffee. I've been up for hours and haven't had coffee. I think that will help my earth energy, too.
Saturday, May 20, 2006
Well, That's Odd
This is just too weird to not to comment on. Axel Rose and Tommy Hilfiger got into a fight at a party.
First of all, Axel Rose is still alive and walking around?
The fight apparently was started by Hilfiger, who punched Rose for moving his girlfriend's drink. OK, second of all, Tommy Hilfiger has a girlfriend?
Rose was at the club to play a surprise gig for Rosario Dawson's 27th birthday. So, third of all, Rose is so hard up that he has to take birthday gigs? Will bar mitzvahs be far behind?
First of all, Axel Rose is still alive and walking around?
The fight apparently was started by Hilfiger, who punched Rose for moving his girlfriend's drink. OK, second of all, Tommy Hilfiger has a girlfriend?
Rose was at the club to play a surprise gig for Rosario Dawson's 27th birthday. So, third of all, Rose is so hard up that he has to take birthday gigs? Will bar mitzvahs be far behind?
Another Thing To Keep Me Busy
My pen pal in England sent me this though email, so what the heck, I'll put it here.
Four jobs I have had in my life:
1. Library Aide
2. Senior Editor
3. Editorial Assistant
4. Teacher
Four movies I would watch over and over:
1. Harry Potter movies
2. Chocolate
3. The Princess Bride
4. Shaun of the Dead
Four places I have lived:
1. Harrison, AR
2. Shreveport, LA
3. Rome, NY
4. Pensacola, FL
Four TV shows I love to watch:
1. Dr. Who (the new one with Christopher Eccelston)
2. House
3. Midsomer Murders
4. Project Runway
Four places I have been on holiday:
1. Scotland
2. England
3. Germany
4. Toronto Canada
Four of my favourite foods:
1. Indian food
2. fruit pies
3. Mongolian BBQ
4. Anything fried
Four places I would rather be right now:
1. Scotland
2. Scotland
3. Scotland
4. Scotland
Hey Jay! If you need something to blog, you're tagged.
Four jobs I have had in my life:
1. Library Aide
2. Senior Editor
3. Editorial Assistant
4. Teacher
Four movies I would watch over and over:
1. Harry Potter movies
2. Chocolate
3. The Princess Bride
4. Shaun of the Dead
Four places I have lived:
1. Harrison, AR
2. Shreveport, LA
3. Rome, NY
4. Pensacola, FL
Four TV shows I love to watch:
1. Dr. Who (the new one with Christopher Eccelston)
2. House
3. Midsomer Murders
4. Project Runway
Four places I have been on holiday:
1. Scotland
2. England
3. Germany
4. Toronto Canada
Four of my favourite foods:
1. Indian food
2. fruit pies
3. Mongolian BBQ
4. Anything fried
Four places I would rather be right now:
1. Scotland
2. Scotland
3. Scotland
4. Scotland
Hey Jay! If you need something to blog, you're tagged.
Thank You
Thank all of you for your kind words of support. The vet's office even sent us flowers. We miss Daily something awful, but I know we did the right thing.
I've been watching some movies we made of her a year ago while we lived in Ohio. Oh my God she was so sick these last few months. The dog in those movies isn't the poor little dog that was living in my home. It doesn't ease the pain or make me miss her any less, but at least I feel that we did what was best for our poor puppy.
So, what do you do to keep your mind off of the sadness that you're feeling?
1. Clean the house and pack away Daily's things. I'll keep most of the toys and things in case we get another dog, but I'm giving her towels, blankets and her bed to the humane society.
2. Plant the herbs that have been sitting on my table for a week.
3. Eat, eat and still more eating. Comfort foods are good--mashed potatoes, ice cream.
4. I would drink, but that damn medication I'm on keeps me from having too much.
5. Drive around town.
6. Go to the gym--you know I'm desperate now!
7. Spend an evening with friends.
8. Watch tv because the silence in the house is about to drive me completely over the bend.
9. Watch movies of the dog to kickstart the happy memories.
Thanks again everyone.
I've been watching some movies we made of her a year ago while we lived in Ohio. Oh my God she was so sick these last few months. The dog in those movies isn't the poor little dog that was living in my home. It doesn't ease the pain or make me miss her any less, but at least I feel that we did what was best for our poor puppy.
So, what do you do to keep your mind off of the sadness that you're feeling?
1. Clean the house and pack away Daily's things. I'll keep most of the toys and things in case we get another dog, but I'm giving her towels, blankets and her bed to the humane society.
2. Plant the herbs that have been sitting on my table for a week.
3. Eat, eat and still more eating. Comfort foods are good--mashed potatoes, ice cream.
4. I would drink, but that damn medication I'm on keeps me from having too much.
5. Drive around town.
6. Go to the gym--you know I'm desperate now!
7. Spend an evening with friends.
8. Watch tv because the silence in the house is about to drive me completely over the bend.
9. Watch movies of the dog to kickstart the happy memories.
Thanks again everyone.
Thursday, May 18, 2006
Be at Peace
It was time. By this morning, Daily wasn't eating or drinking. And she couldn't sit up on her own for very long. She's not suffering any longer. And although I am glad for that, I miss her so very much. My DailyDog. Here's one of the last pictures of her, before her health turned for the worse. She was still able to jump up onto "her" couch.
Wednesday, May 17, 2006
When Is It Time?
This is going to be sad. It's always sad when a much-loved pet is sick. I'm sorry about this, but I don't have an outlet for this confusion I'm feeling and it might help to write it out.
My dog, Daily, has congestive heart failure. She's 11, and the heart failure has slowly been getting worse since her diagnosis in the summer of 2004. Right now, on her latest x-ray a couple of weeks ago, her heart is huge--the size of a softball. It's so large her lungs aren't as visible because they have been pressed against the sides of her chest and her trachia has been pushed up almost parallel with her spine. As I type this, she's panting, taking short shallow breaths and looking up at me with her brown eyes that I can see all too clearly since she was groomed a few weeks ago. When I pet her, I can feel the bones in her shoulders, her back, and her bottom, but her stomach is large and round because the fluid from her lungs has seeped into her abdomen. She can't jump up on the couch with me any more, and I've even helped her up the steps into the house. Her tongue and gums are pale to light pink. She's on the max medication. All signs of a very sick dog who may be suffering.
So, here's the hard part. She's still eating, although not as much or as regularly as before. And if she's offered jerky or treats, she happily wags her tail and accepts them. She's still drinking. She's still urinating and everything else she needs to do by taking herself outside through the doggie door. She still sits up and wags her tail when we walk into a room, and even greets us at the door sometimes when we return home. All signs of a dog who is going downhill, but still maybe having a viable life.
Everyone tells me that I'll know when it's time to make the decision to put her down. She's not going to pass away in her sleep--the vet said that rarely happens. It's the way we want it to happen, but it just doesn't. He admitted that every time we bring her in for a problem, he wonders if this is the time he's going to have to have "the talk" with us. But when she's at the vet, the adrenaline kicks in, and she's almost perky. Hubby thinks I'm obsessing and thinking about it too much. "She's fine," he says. He's waiting for her to pass out--that seems to be the final sign for him. The vet says that she'll get dispondent where nothing will interest her. We're not at that point yet.
She's staring at me because she wants something. What does she need? It's so easy to give human feelings to that canine face. I think she's looking at me saying, "Help me! Can't you see I'm having trouble breathing here!" But then I'll ask, "Wanna cookie?" And her ears perk up and her tail wags. So, I give her a cookie.
She's my dog, my responsibility. The love she has brought to my family has been immeasurable, and I don't want to fail her now. But if it's not really time, am I just trying to get something really painful over with? Am I really seeing things worse because I'm so afraid that I'll let her suffer too long?
She's inching closer to me, dragging her heavy hind quarters. "Do you want a cookie?" Ears perk up, stops panting, wags her tail. I think that means "Yes."
My dog, Daily, has congestive heart failure. She's 11, and the heart failure has slowly been getting worse since her diagnosis in the summer of 2004. Right now, on her latest x-ray a couple of weeks ago, her heart is huge--the size of a softball. It's so large her lungs aren't as visible because they have been pressed against the sides of her chest and her trachia has been pushed up almost parallel with her spine. As I type this, she's panting, taking short shallow breaths and looking up at me with her brown eyes that I can see all too clearly since she was groomed a few weeks ago. When I pet her, I can feel the bones in her shoulders, her back, and her bottom, but her stomach is large and round because the fluid from her lungs has seeped into her abdomen. She can't jump up on the couch with me any more, and I've even helped her up the steps into the house. Her tongue and gums are pale to light pink. She's on the max medication. All signs of a very sick dog who may be suffering.
So, here's the hard part. She's still eating, although not as much or as regularly as before. And if she's offered jerky or treats, she happily wags her tail and accepts them. She's still drinking. She's still urinating and everything else she needs to do by taking herself outside through the doggie door. She still sits up and wags her tail when we walk into a room, and even greets us at the door sometimes when we return home. All signs of a dog who is going downhill, but still maybe having a viable life.
Everyone tells me that I'll know when it's time to make the decision to put her down. She's not going to pass away in her sleep--the vet said that rarely happens. It's the way we want it to happen, but it just doesn't. He admitted that every time we bring her in for a problem, he wonders if this is the time he's going to have to have "the talk" with us. But when she's at the vet, the adrenaline kicks in, and she's almost perky. Hubby thinks I'm obsessing and thinking about it too much. "She's fine," he says. He's waiting for her to pass out--that seems to be the final sign for him. The vet says that she'll get dispondent where nothing will interest her. We're not at that point yet.
She's staring at me because she wants something. What does she need? It's so easy to give human feelings to that canine face. I think she's looking at me saying, "Help me! Can't you see I'm having trouble breathing here!" But then I'll ask, "Wanna cookie?" And her ears perk up and her tail wags. So, I give her a cookie.
She's my dog, my responsibility. The love she has brought to my family has been immeasurable, and I don't want to fail her now. But if it's not really time, am I just trying to get something really painful over with? Am I really seeing things worse because I'm so afraid that I'll let her suffer too long?
She's inching closer to me, dragging her heavy hind quarters. "Do you want a cookie?" Ears perk up, stops panting, wags her tail. I think that means "Yes."
Got Tagged.
Cool. Something different to do on the ol' blog. Got tagged by Jay, so here it goes.
I AM more than I let people know or see.
I WANT to achieve rather than dream.
I WISH Jay realized that he is really talented.
I MISS the thrill of watching cartoons on a Saturday morning.
I HEAR my dog breathing as she's sleeping on the couch next to me.
I WONDER wonder who badoo oo who. Who wrote the book of love.
I REGRET that I didn't call my dad on New Years Eve, 1996.
I AM NOT going to dwell on what I'm not.
I DANCE so much less than I used to. And that makes me sad.
I AM NOT ALWAYS as nice as people think I am.
I MAKE WITH MY HANDS knitted-with-love items for my friends and family.
I WRITE not nearly as much as I think about writing.
I CONFUSE silence with disapproval.
I NEED to stop being afraid.
I SHOULD be in Scotland, writing while tending my sheep in the Highlands, after having a beer with Ian Rankin at the Oxford Bar in Edinburgh.
I START new projects almost every day.
I FINISH nary a project.
I TAG Betty.
I AM more than I let people know or see.
I WANT to achieve rather than dream.
I WISH Jay realized that he is really talented.
I MISS the thrill of watching cartoons on a Saturday morning.
I HEAR my dog breathing as she's sleeping on the couch next to me.
I WONDER wonder who badoo oo who. Who wrote the book of love.
I REGRET that I didn't call my dad on New Years Eve, 1996.
I AM NOT going to dwell on what I'm not.
I DANCE so much less than I used to. And that makes me sad.
I AM NOT ALWAYS as nice as people think I am.
I MAKE WITH MY HANDS knitted-with-love items for my friends and family.
I WRITE not nearly as much as I think about writing.
I CONFUSE silence with disapproval.
I NEED to stop being afraid.
I SHOULD be in Scotland, writing while tending my sheep in the Highlands, after having a beer with Ian Rankin at the Oxford Bar in Edinburgh.
I START new projects almost every day.
I FINISH nary a project.
I TAG Betty.
Tuesday, May 16, 2006
I'm a Bookaholic.
And I can't stop myself. I have several books I'm trying to read right now, and at the rate I'm going, I won't finish any of them! Why do I do this to myself? Why can't I just be interested in one subject at a time so that I can read a book, then move on to another?
Why do I keep going to the library and getting armloads of books that I'm just going to have to return unread? It's not that I don't want to read them, I just hate having that due date looming over me. I feel like I'm being forced to read that book, so, of course, my Taurus stubborness says, "Maybe I don't want to read that right now. Maybe I want to read this paperback that's been sitting in my bookcase forever." But, I'm just as bad at the bookstore--buying books that I'm so excited about, then they just sit on the shelf. It's as if, now that I have it, I don't want it any more. How fickle.
So, which should I be reading right now? Should I go back to The Geographer's Library, which I put down while I reread The Dogs of Bedlam Farm. Or, I have the latest Jon Katz book on training dogs, and since I looooooved The Dogs of Bedlam Farm, I'm kind of on a dog kick. But, I'm also on another mystery kick, since I started the latest Rebus mystery on my list(I'm working my way through all of them). I started that one while on the stationary bike at the gym. And I have two Sherlock Holmes-inspired books: The Italian Secretary by Caleb Carr, which is a new Holmes mysters, and Arthur and George by Julian Barnes, which is about Arthur Conan Doyle in a real-life mystery.
Of course, I won't get anything read if I don't close this laptop. It just sucks me in, and before I know it, the hours I could have spent reading one of those library books was spent looking for the latest info on the Harry Potter movies, gossip at E!, and catching up on some blogs.
Oh well. Maybe I'll just knit instead.
Why do I keep going to the library and getting armloads of books that I'm just going to have to return unread? It's not that I don't want to read them, I just hate having that due date looming over me. I feel like I'm being forced to read that book, so, of course, my Taurus stubborness says, "Maybe I don't want to read that right now. Maybe I want to read this paperback that's been sitting in my bookcase forever." But, I'm just as bad at the bookstore--buying books that I'm so excited about, then they just sit on the shelf. It's as if, now that I have it, I don't want it any more. How fickle.
So, which should I be reading right now? Should I go back to The Geographer's Library, which I put down while I reread The Dogs of Bedlam Farm. Or, I have the latest Jon Katz book on training dogs, and since I looooooved The Dogs of Bedlam Farm, I'm kind of on a dog kick. But, I'm also on another mystery kick, since I started the latest Rebus mystery on my list(I'm working my way through all of them). I started that one while on the stationary bike at the gym. And I have two Sherlock Holmes-inspired books: The Italian Secretary by Caleb Carr, which is a new Holmes mysters, and Arthur and George by Julian Barnes, which is about Arthur Conan Doyle in a real-life mystery.
Of course, I won't get anything read if I don't close this laptop. It just sucks me in, and before I know it, the hours I could have spent reading one of those library books was spent looking for the latest info on the Harry Potter movies, gossip at E!, and catching up on some blogs.
Oh well. Maybe I'll just knit instead.
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